Outdo One Another in Showing Honor--Romans 12:10 (Being the Body Series)

            Sometimes in life, you can have so much of a good thing that you fail to appreciate any one individual part of it. I think that’s what it can feel like sometimes to read Romans 12. Romans 12 contains so many profound lessons for the Christian life, and it gives us these lessons at a nearly break-neck speed. In verses nine through 21 in particular, the Apostle Paul peppers us with one brief yet profound command after another.

            It can be difficult to appreciate them all, so today I want to hit the pause button and focus on just one, which we find in the second half of verse 10 – “Outdo one another in showing honor.” Now perhaps you’re thinking, “Where did you just read from, Pastor Tim?” If you were following along in a different translation as I read, then you surely noticed that your translation may have used rather different words than mine. Notice the differences between these common translations:

·         ESV: “Outdo one another in showing honor.”

·         NKJV: “…in honor giving preference to one another.”

·         NASB: “give preference to one another in honor.”

·         NIV: “Honor one another above yourselves.”

·         NLT: “…take delight in honoring each other.”

            If you ponder the meaning of those phrases – like “giving preference” or honoring one another “above yourselves” – you end up with a very similar picture. But I’d like to unpack this wording from the English Standard Version: “Outdo one another in showing honor.”

            At first, it probably sounds funny to think of “outdoing” each other in something like showing honor, as though we’re actually competing with each other as to how well we’re living out biblical commands. But rest assured, we are not talking about some strange competition here.

            The idea of the Greek verb is that of taking the lead in something; being out front. If we think of honor as showing appreciation and esteem, I think we have a pretty good paraphrase for this command – “take the lead in showing appreciation and esteem.” Now how exactly would you take the lead in something like showing appreciation to others? I think we could apply this thought in a couple of ways.

1. Don’t lag behind!

            We don’t want to pass up opportunities to show appreciation to each other when those opportunities present themselves. The opposite of showing appreciation is probably being ungrateful, and that’s a character trait that we certainly don’t want to embody in our lives. When you express appreciation, you’re letting someone know how much they mean to you or how thankful you are for something that they did for you. We don’t want to pass up opportunities like that because it’s the right thing to do – not to mention that such gestures can go a long way in building a great friendship with someone.

            We certainly don’t want to have the reputation of being ungrateful. It’s my understanding that in the service industry, Christians have a reputation of being very stingy in giving tips. I have no idea where that stereotype came from, and I have no idea how true to life it is, but I think we all agree that we want to have the reputation of being generous people – people who show appreciation when acts of service are performed for us.

            I believe this thought also sheds some helpful light on the Christian concept of duty. When I think about serving God or even serving you, it’s appropriate for me to think to a certain degree about fulfilling a duty. I think ultimately we want our motivation for service to go beyond duty to delight (in other words, I serve God and others because I delight to do so) but nevertheless, the reality of our duty to God is there to push us along even when we don’t delight to do what we should.

            But when someone else serves me, I shouldn’t think just in terms of that person doing their duty. In other words, I don’t want to camp out on the thought that says, “I expect other people to serve me – after all, that’s their duty as a Christian!” Let them worry about their duty to God – on your part, you should view their service as a gift and thus be thankful for it and express that appreciation.

            I hope we do a good job of this as a church toward all of you who volunteer in various ways, but if we’ve never made our appreciation known to you, please accept my apologies and know that your contributions are not overlooked. We consider your service to be a gracious gift to us all. Please pray for the leadership of our church that we, too, would be faithful to carry out this command and express appreciation when it is due.

A second way that we could apply this command would be to…

2. Take the initiative – don’t simply respond to the initiative of others.

            One of the hallmarks of Christian behavior is that it is proactive, not reactive. In other words, I am not supposed to treat you merely in the same way that you treat me, so that if you treat me poorly, I will treat you poorly in return. Rather – and we all know this from the Golden Rule – I am supposed to treat you the way that I would want you to treat me – whether you actually treat me that way or not!

            So if a person has never shown appropriate appreciation to you, you don’t have to let that fact stop you from showing appreciation and esteem to them. Now of course, I’m not talking about flattery here. I’m not talking about twisting or exaggerating the truth – I’m talking about situations when appreciation and esteem are actually deserved. When they are, express that! Don’t let a good thing go unsaid when it should be said.

            We so often miss out on the life-giving power of encouraging words because we leave them unsaid. You might often think about how much you appreciate someone and you might often think very highly of them, but how often do you express that to them? Again, I’m not talking about flattery, I’m really just talking about faithfulness – faithfulness to obey the command just like this one here in Romans 12:10. Faithfulness to take the lead in showing appreciation – not simply to return such expressions when they are given to you, but to be the one who will plant life-giving seeds for the soul through words of appreciation, gratitude, and thankfulness.

            We of all people should be known as a grateful people because we know that every good thing we have is a gift from God. We know to give our appreciation and esteem to him – let’s make sure we don’t fail to give the same to the people who bring God’s good gifts to us through their service.